Our twenties are all about self-discovering, identity building and exploration. It’s our time to travel, try new things, meet new people and discover who we really are. This is the time of our lives when we are free. We are no longer kids who must do what their parents tell them to do. But we are not yet “adults” with too many responsibilities. We have the freedom and we should make the most of it. Or at least that’s what I think. I love the fact that even though I have my day job and my boyfriend I don’t have any major responsibilities like children or a mortgage. I’m free to do what I want. But even though I’m free it doesn’t mean I should waste these years doing nothing.
I don’t know if I’ve already shared my love to Ted Talks with you guys. I guess I mentioned it briefly on this blog post. Anyway, I love Ted Talks and I try to listen one of them if not daily at least weekly. And this one is my favorite. It’s all about living your twenties. If you haven’t yet listened to it, do it now. Really. It’s worth it.
After I had listened that Ted Talk I started to think about twenties from a new perspective. Suddenly it seems that everyone is just waiting for something to happen to them. Everyone seems to have some kind of an identity crisis and they are just trying to figure out what they want to do in life. Like the solution would appear if you just keep waiting for it.
I hate to break it for you, but it won’t. If you keep waiting you are just wasting your time. I know that’s the last thing you wanted to hear but it’s true.
What you really need to do is to do things. This was said in that Ted Talk but I’m going to say it again. You need to forget your identity crisis and start gaining some identity capital instead. Which simply means you need to start doing things. If you don’t know what you want to do for a living, you simply must try different things. So, get a job and try if that’s what you want to do. If it’s not, simply move on. At least now you what you don’t want to do.
The most important thing of your twenties is not what you do but the fact that you do something. Spending your twenties working as a waitress and hanging out with your girl gang may sound like an exciting thing to do, but if your real dream is to work as a copywriter you are wasting your time.
Someone is calling this exploration but it’s not. You are procrastinating and you should stop it. What I want you to do is to stop procrastinating and start gaining that identity capital that will help you to get closer to your dreams.
Because that’s what I call exploration.